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Her child became a needless pawn

2015/3/9 — 15:16

Capture from Figo Chan's Video

Capture from Figo Chan's Video

Going to touch on a topic that is hyper sensitive now so bear with me.

The woman with the crying child in Tuen Mun.

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I came upon this woman, towards the end of the confrontation, so I didn't catch it all, but what I missed you can see on the video.

Like most people my first reaction was, not cool, why are they harassing a woman with a child?

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But like everything to do with these protests it needs to be put into context and what at first seems to be black, is actually white and visa-versa.

There's two contexts here I want to discuss.

Firstly, the context of being a parent.

It's certainly true that this woman walked headlong into the protest and was accused of being a smuggler. The question then is based on this, as a responsible parent what would you do? Would you remove yourself and the child from the scene as quickly as possible, or would you stand and fight. Well, we can all see what this woman did, she stands and fights her corner. She is hyper aggressive in making her points, she rips open her bag to reveal its contents and is verbally attacking all who will listen.

Watch the video.

 

 

She doesn't pay even a single bit of attention to her child. Her focus is solely on redeeming the fact that she isn't a smuggler. Her attention only turns to her child when she begins to cry. And her immediate response to that is to tell the press to take a photo. Even with her child now in distress, her focus is on arguing rather than consoling or let's say, removing the child from the scene. With the child crying she now uses it to strengthen her argument, parading her like she is an object to prove her point rather than a child that needs protecting.

After the video ends, most of the protesters move on, but the woman doesn't give up, she continues to hurl abuse from a distance while the woman passerby comforts her child and packs up her bag.

Now, from my point of view, irrespective of how I see the protests, I'd say that this is utterly irresponsible parenting borderline child abuse. The woman's goal was confrontation, not protecting her child. Her child became a needless pawn in an argument she really didn't need to have. A comment from the protesters that could have been brushed off and lasted just a few seconds, turned into a huge shit show of her own making. No responsible parent would put their child through this, they would think of the welfare of their child above all things, regardless of what they had been accused of. So as much as it does distress me to see the child cry, this whole ugly incident was her mother's making. I agree, she was wrongly accused, but really she chose to put her child through this situation to make a point! What a heartless woman!

Now I will put my political hat on and give the same scenario political context.

Let's say, you completely disagree with me and you think that this woman was right to argue her point and not remove her child from such a distressing situation, and given this, the video pushes the moral boundaries of protest too far.

But again, let's put this into context, you're hopping mad that a woman should go through a ten minute quarrel, yet that same madness that motivates you in this situation, doesn't motivate you to be mad that people's lives in these communities are turned upside by the smuggler trade. This video can boil your blood, but the persistent hell that ordinary people go through day by day, week in week out, doesn't move you to be anything other than mildly sympathetic at best. That's context out of whack!

The reality, is given the stressed nature of Hong Kong society conflicts like these will become more and more common. You may hate to see this child's suffering on video for 3minutes, but if it wasn't for these protests, you would have remained oblivious to the suffering of people in these districts forever!

A contentious post I agree.

 

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